If I could do it all over again…
(advice for new moms)

My son is about to turn four years old.  It seems like just a short time ago he was doing tummy time on the floor, and in a blink of an eye he was crawling, then walking. Since then, he’s been climbing, jumping, talking non-stop, and even telling me stories!  It’s a far cry from the colicky and inconsolable newborn days.  But at times I miss the newborn days of snuggling, nursing, and watching all the first moments - first smiles, first laughs, first steps…

Looking back, I wish I would have done things a little differently in the early days of motherhood.  Here is the advice I wish I followed when I was a new mom.  

Ask for help: In the beginning, there will be more offers of help than you will know what to do with.  Take family and friends up on their offers to help.  Whether that means holding your baby, making you meals, stocking your refrigerator, getting your oil changed, and the like.  You don’t need to be a good hostess and entertain. What you need to do is nap or take a shower.  You’ll feel so much better and be a better mom to your newborn.  

Lower your standers:  The house will be mess, the laundry won’t be done.  Some days brushing your teeth or changing your shirt will be the biggest accomplishment for the day.  And that’s just fine!  New motherhood turns the world you knew upside down - not in a bad way but in a new way.  Be kind to yourself and don’t despair when you realize your new wardrobe is nothing but spit-up stained shirts and your maternity yoga pants. This time will pass before you know it. (And you’ll be back into your normal yoga pants soon.)  Don’t waste a second of it worrying about a messy house or fancy meal. Scoop up your baby and snuggle him for hours.  

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Know that it gets better:  Newborns are demanding, selfish, clingy little beings, and motherhood is not always what you envision.  I didn’t know I would be achy and sore for weeks after birth.  I knew baby would nurse every 2 hours, but I did’t know it would take 45 minutes each time.  Why even bother putting on a bra or shirt for that matter?  But after awhile, you’ll look back and realize it truly does get easier.  It isn’t just false hope given to new moms by grandmas.  

You’ll develop superhuman powers:  What use to take an hour to do pre-baby will take 5 minutes once you’re a mom.  You’ll be able to shower in seconds.  You’ll be come a master at doing things one handed.  It will be shocking that you can do so much on so little sleep.  Your partner will also be there for you in ways you never expected.  

Time flies by: When you’re in the early days and weeks of new motherhood it can be tough to see beyond the moment. You’re tired. You’re frustrated.  You haven’t washed your hair in days.  But recognize that this time is just a blip in your little one’s lifetime.  Remind yourself to soak it all in, every second of it. One day, believe it or not, you’re going to miss this.  

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